I'm Not in The Mood for The 'Tude, Dude!

Do kids always have to be outgoingly polite, smiley, willing to engage with others and happy to have strangers poke at their bellies or pinch their cheeks? Would you be so happy if this was done to you? I know I wouldn't.

But for some reason (which does faintly annoy me) there are a couple of people I am in acquaintance with (school gates etc - not bezzie mates or anything) but when they see my son, the one I'm thinking of in particular, always tries to engage my son in some conversation and rub his cheek. (He does have cute chubby cheeks!)

Some days he plays ball and smiles back and goes along with it. Some days he buries his head in my leg and pretends to be shy so he doesn't have to talk to the woman. But if he does this, she says "OOh - in a mood are we?" or at me "Is he tired?" - in one of those faux sympathetic side head tilts that is supposed to come across as 'I know what it's like' but seems to come across as patronising.

Well - the answer is, "No, he's not in a mood, and No, he's not tired!" He just can't always be bothered with making small talk like everyone else on the planet! He doesn't HAVE to engage with everyone who decides to throw themselves into his eyesight. He has the prerogative to ignore or pretend not to hear like we all do at times! Just because he is two - does that mean he doesn't have the right to not like someone? Why does society seem to expect that all kids think that anything they say to them will be met with fascination, a smile, or a conversation?

...and before you wonder if my lad has 'social problems' he doesn't! Both my kids are pleasant, outgoing, confident children. I am teaching them to have faith in themselves, but also to be mindful of other people. As a result, they are growing up to be very kind, sensitive children who do care for other people and as a result, are very popular within their peers. (Well - this is more true for my 7YO as she is at school and has developed more social skills given her age).

If I speak to someone's child in public - especially one whom I don't know, if I do not get a positive response, I don't take it personally. If they bury their head in their mother, I just say something like "Bye then!" and go about my business. I certainly don't act like the child not wanting to engage with me is a character flaw in them!

What does everyone else think? Do you allow your kids to just 'be?' and allow other kids to too?

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The Power of Advertising

So we were sat down to dinner - my husband had cooked and he put my daughter's plate in front of her. She took one look and then asked

"Is this 'Green Giant' sweetcorn?"

I couldn't believe it!! Sweetcorn is sweetcorn! But what a good job the marketers for Green Giant have done to have a 7 year old ask me that at the dinner table!

It reminded me of when she was 18 months old and could identify Mc Donalds by the golden arches as we drove past.

Have your children ever surprised you with requests from brand advertising?

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An Accidental Tip for 'Clean Freak' Mums!

Today I accidentally discovered a great tip for mums in the 'potty training' stage!

My son has been toilet training and doing well - bar the "number two's", he still hasn't got the hang yet! But we are not having too many accidents. ...except if he naps in the day.

Nowadays he is growing out of his afternoon nap in general, but he still napping on the odd occasion. When he does, I have been a bit worried in case he pees whilst asleep but it's even worse in the car seat because the whole seat gets wet which then contaminates any new clothing I put him in and makes the car seat smelly if it is left to dry.

I don't want to sneak a Pull-Up onto him while he sleeps because we've told him what a big boy he is and I think it would confuse him to suddenly find himself 'back to nappies'.

But today he was napping on the sofa when we needed to leave to collect my eldest from school. So I got a Pampers Bed Mat out to wrap round his butt, then I placed him in the car seat! Genius!

He stayed dry but if he had wet then all I'd do would be toss the bed mat and change his clothes and the car seat would remain dry!

Why didn't I think of this before?!!

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Free e-Book for Mumpreneurs

I have just found out about a new free e-book which Mumpreneurs out there may find useful!
The Mumpreneur’s Guide to Online Business Success is an e-book written by Antonia Chitty and Erica Douglas - both mummybloggers who know about social networking. This free book is only available until 6th June 2010 as they are launching a new e-course on 7th June so snap it up quickly! Go here to claim the book:
www.themumpreneurguide.co.uk/winonline.php

It’s just right for anyone who wants to get started on Facebook, Twitter or create and maintain a business blog.

I did a review about a year ago of a book with a very similar name, so I'm letting you know about that to avoid confusion! This book was by Supermummy and here is the review:
http://www.timemanagementmum.com/2009/03/youre-already-supermummy-heres-how-to.html

Both books are worth checking out if you are a mum in business or want to be. You just need to find the time to read them now!!

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Don't Have Time for Fashion Problems? Here is a Solution!

If like me, you are a busy mum, you will know that whilst you want to look good, you don't have time for things that don't work!

I have a gorgeous pair of shoes from NEXT that I got in the sale a year ago but I've only been able to wear them once as they are heels but have no support around the front of the foot to keep them on! Wearing them is like wearing flip flops which is ok and comfortable at flat level but when your whole body weight is poised on the balls of your feet and your tippy toes, they become less comfy.

I didn't want to relegate them to occasions when I know I only have to walk a small distance from a car to a seat inside, and in fact I have a family wedding this Summer that I'd like to wear them to. They will go beautifully with a purple dress I've bought and a grey ostrich feather tippet, but I was dreading the clappity clapping around that I'd have to do all day and at weddings you are on your feet a lot! I was dreading it until now....

Check this out - these will be my shoe hell salvation:


These are my new Heelstraps in their carry tin.
...and these are them on!



I am wearing them with my grey snakeskin shoes that I plan to wear to the wedding but of course I won't be 'jean clad' on the day!

Now being fashionable doesn't have to come second to practicality. I hope these Heelstraps are as comfy to wear all day as they seem, but early indications when strutting round the house seem ok.

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Saving Time and Beating the School Uniform Crowds!

My son will start school nursery in September and will have to wear a uniform, and this time I was determined to be prepared well in advance!

When my daughter went to nursery 4 years ago, I wasn't going to buy her a uniform. She was my eldest and so it was the first time I'd negotiated playground politics, and I mean the parents here - not the pupils! All the mums seemed to be planning to put their kids into school uniform even though in nursery - you don't have to.

The party line is that they can wear uniform if it makes it easier for you (for example if you already have older kids in uniform, it makes sense for them all to be the same) But your child can go to nursery wearing their own clothes, the rule about uniform is only enforced when they start Reception.

So being a lover of fashion and the ability to express oneself however we like (and for me this means I like dressing up!) so I wasn't going to make my daughter wear a uniform if she didn't have to. I figured that she had the rest of her school career to wear a uniform and look the same as everyone else. How wrong I was!

As nursery grew nearer, I was speaking to the other mums and it really did look like everyone in nursery that year was going to wear a uniform. Kids who did not have older siblings too - literally everyone! So I started thinking - maybe I should get my daughter a uniform after all. It is one thing to refuse to bow to peer pressure but the one who would be standing out is my daughter, and at her tender young age - all they want is to fit in! So I bowed.

Only problem was that by this time (the start of September!) all the school uniform in age 3 was taken. There was nothing left and my daughter- although three and a half at the time, has a petite frame and needed the smallest size. I found myself having to race round all the uniform shops, from M&S to ASDA to Adams to Tesco, to the local market stall and pick up the odd bits that remained at each place to give her enough to start with. Then I spent the rest of the nursery year picking up two of everything each time she needed something new. One skirt in her size, one in the next size up! I was stockpiling but it worked (I've never run out of uniform for her since even after an unexpected growth spurt) but this habit has stayed with me.

In 4 short months, my boy starts nursery and of course, being a boy and therefore cannot have the older sibling 'hand me downs', I have to get him a full set of everything - starting from age 3. All of the younger child sizes seem to fly off the shelves, so this time I have been savvy! I went onto Tesco.com and bought up a basic set in the smallest sizes and they arrived this morning! They don't have a massive range in Age 3 so I have got Age 4 trousers and Age 3 shorts and if I spot any Age 3 trousers elsewhere I will whip them up! At least I now have some trousers in Age 4 for when he grows into them!

The major school uniform push starts next month, when all the shops will be stocking up so I will still get a few pieces then but I feel happy now knowing that at least he will have something to wear come September 6th!

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Can't Supernanny create an Adult 'Naughty Step'?!



Last week we went to see Peppa Pig Live! But what was supposed to be a nice family day out became very stressful - on account of other people and their children! Let me explain...

When having a day out with kids, it's best to be prepared. By this, I mean that I always make them each a drink of juice before we go and take a spare Fruit Shoot for each, pack a few snacks in my bag, something to entertain (a soft toy or a DS) and a pack of wet wipes.

So I was well prepared for our trip to see Peppa Pig's Party. I had filled my bag, pre purchased a pair of plastic 'windmills' to give to each child when we got there as I knew there would be merchandise on sale at the venue and it always costs a lot more than it's worth. Besides, I got the plastic windmills in a discount store so they were really cheap. And I had also given each child the speech about being good, sitting nicely and not talking during the show. We were all set.

When we got to the show, I am pleased to say that during the first half, my children were seated, quiet (the bags of mini Cadbury's Fingers saw to that!) and really enjoyed the show - except for the talking. Now in a show aimed at kids you are going to get some noise from the audience. But in this show - apart from the usual screamers, the adults were chatting away too!

From the woman behind me whose only words seemed to be "Cameron - sit DOWN" and "Cameron - be QUIET!" to the couple of women to my right who seemed to be catching up on what went on at work that week, a lot of the adults were ruining the show and to be honest, I didn't pay to hear the details of their lives! At one stage, after staring across in the dark filled auditorium didn't work, I resorted to 'Shushing' them, but whether it registered with them is beyond me.

After the first half closed, and it was interval time, I looked over at the woman - let's call her 'gobby number 1' (her mate - gobby number 2 had gone to the refreshment stand to get something to soothe her throat I'm sure from all the chatting), and I said "Please can you not talk all the way through the second half?"

Her response was that "everyone else was talking" (as if this made it ok), so I pointed out that "everyone talking doesn't mean it's ok and besides, I've brought my children out for a day and we can't hear". Gobby No 1 replied that she had brought her children out too, and I was so frustrated by then at her attitude - she couldn't seem to care less if her own kids could her over her yapping, that I told her to "Shut up then so we can all hear the show and enjoy our days out!"

Fortunately she did do as I ask and shut up - she obviously couldn't think of a response to that, and we got a bit of quiet. My kids enjoyed the second half and I sat and reflected in the darkened theatre that this was a first. I've never had to 'discipline' a grown woman before. Makes you think that sometimes the parents need a naughty step more than the kids.

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Time Management Competition Winner

The winner of the Time Management Competition that ran throughout April is (drumroll please.......)

Carol from Working Mum!

Carol's entry was
"My life saver is to stock up on lots of age appropriate presents, cards and wrapping paper in August so that when daughter is invited to a party I don't have to find time to go and get a card and present!"

Brilliant time saving tip and also a sanity saver too! I also do this, if I spot sale items during the year, I just stockpile for the inevitable invites that come often with 1 weeks' notice!

Here are the original competition posts:
http://www.timemanagementmum.com/2010/04/time-management-tips-for-women-who.html
and...
http://www.timemanagementmum.com/2010/04/your-best-time-management-tip.html

Well done Carol and your prize - a £20 High Street voucher (you chose M&S) is on its way to you!
***THIS COMPETITION IS NOW CLOSED***

This competition was sponsored by Euroffice who are the UK’s no1 online office supplies company.


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